6 things I wish I had learnt earlier in life

03.03.2015

#DearMe is a global campaign initiated by YouTube aiming to inspire and empower teenage girls, leading up to International Women’s Day on March 8. The idea is simple: if you could speak to your younger teenage self, what advice and encouragement would you give her?

As the mom of two teenage girls, I felt immediately connected and compelled to participate in this campaign. There are so many things I wish I had learnt earlier in life and try to teach my daughters everyday. And as a big lover of typography and quotes, I thought sharing my ‘life’ learning lessons in quotes was a great way to do this, and help spread the word. So here are my life ‘aHa moment’ quotes, to my younger #DearMe, to my sweet teenage daughters and to young girls all over the world.

1- Thou shall not take shit. From anybody, period. Not from your boyfriend, husband, friend, or stranger you meet in your life. Learn to say no as early as possible in life. It took me FOREVER to learn to say no, but damn, does it feel good once you learn to. Very relieving and empowering. Don’t say maybe if you want to say no. Just say no.

#dear me |French By Design

2- You won’t find love if you don’t love yourself first. And you won’t get respect from others if you don’t respect yourself first. I remember in my 20s breaking up from a long term relationship. I decided to be alone and not date anyone for a while. I felt like I needed to know myself and refocus on myself before being able to be in a relationship. It turned out it was a great decision. When you know you are ok to be alone, you know what you are willing to give up to be in a relationship. Don’t stay with a jerk just to be with someone. You deserve better.

3- Do not care what everybody thinks of you, but what the RIGHT people think of you. Ah, this one is tricky and a regular topic with my girls. Why try to always please everybody around you? Why do you care being the “nice” girl to everyone? Be the awesome girl to people that matter to you. The others do not matter.

#dear me |French By Design

#DearMe |French By Design

4- Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it! Don’t try to get bigger boobs, bigger lips, smaller hips or dream of changing your body. Embrace your features, your hips, your curly or straight hair. Be yourself, love who you are and you will shine to others. Self confidence is truly the best and sexiest outfit.

5- Always do what you are afraid to do [Ralph Waldo Emerson]. Constantly learn, challenge yourself, do the things that scare you and get them off your bucket list. The earlier you start, the better.

6- You are one of a kind. Don’t try to be a copy, be yourself. You are unique, embrace it! Now, go get them tiger!

#dearme |French By Design

Your turn now… If you could speak to your younger teenage self, what advice and encouragement would you give her? What is your #DearMe message?

Sources : 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 

13 comments

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  • Sophina

    Thank you so much for these tips. I am not a very confident person and I found these tips very helpful. I’ll use them to gradually believe in myself more. Also, your blog is really good! I love it.

    Sophina xx

    http://www.sophinaw.blogspot.co.uk

    • French By Design

      Oh, such sweet words, Sophina! I’m so glad these words inspired you for your own journey. Lots of hugs. X-

  • Sarah E. Ashlock

    #DearMe

    The world is bigger than you realize. Go explore and stop worrying!

    xoxo,
    Sarah

  • Yuet

    #dearme … have heart … you will be just fine …

  • Jessica

    #DearMe,

    It is ok to fail. Failure is part of the learning process.

    Forgive yourself. You make mistakes sometimes, and that’s ok. Learn from them, forgive yourself, and move forward.

    I could probably come up with a whole list of this stuff, but that might be better in a blog post and not a comments thread. Haha. Great idea for a post though. There’s so much about it that I love. :)

  • Rocio P. Vigne

    Thank you for the post, they are great advices, evento for me that I am 38!
    #DearMe
    Don’t be afraid of being yourself, don’t let publicity, fashion or other people opinions make you be different, you are lovely the way you are!

  • Simone

    Hi;
    Well, while I like your slogans, there is also a slightly defensive/ assertive undertone in most of them. That is why I would like to give you these three quotes:

    “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”
    ― Albert Einstein

    “The perfect world is created when the mind is free to see it.”
    ― Byron Katie

    “That’s why we practice. So we can handle the weather.”
    ― Karen Maezen Miller (on meditating, http://karenmaezenmiller.com/to-handle-the-weather/#comments)

    Have a wonderful day! Simone

    P.S. Because (Byron) Katie speaks in quotes here a bonus quote from her:
    “Until you are loyal to yourself, you can’t be loyal to another person” – Byron Katie

  • Ella

    Just did a #dearme post myself. It’s such a great campaign! I love your advice to your younger self ! Especially about saying no to people, it’s so important

    Ella

  • Michael

    I can sign under! Perfectly summarized.
    The one and only point I have still problem with is the 4..self-confidence..but I’m working on it and it is better and better ^_^
    Thank you for sharing this, showing us we’re not alone..
    Happy Wednesday,
    Michael
    http://www.ontheleaf.net

  • Fénice

    Hello
    I am a dormant reader of your blog for a long time now…. ;-)
    I am the mother of a 15 years old girl quite confident in herself, but still being 15 is quite a challenge…
    Anyway what would I need to hear : People love you more / find you more interesting / etc. than you think. Stop paranoia, people are more tolerant, curious, loving than you imagine… in one word, they are humans like you

  • Juju Sprinkles

    This makes me smile! Thank you for sharing it =)

    Juju
    http://www.jujusprinkles.com